Being nonjudgmental, in any way, is something I’ve been working on… and it’s not easy. I think we’re all conditioned to assign a good or bad tag to just about every aspect of life; movies, food, weather, people. I think if we all just start to look at things in life with a bit of neutrality, we would be better off. For example, you’re coming home from work and you get caught in the rain without an umbrella… is it so bad? It’s just water. Yes we’re used to being dry in our clothes, but it’s ok… it’s not bad, it’s just different. Which ice cream is better? Vanilla or chocolate… neither, they’re just different.
Getting this in my email today made me think of this…
Over time, as the thinking mind begins to settle [through the practice of meditation], we’ll start to see our patterns and habits far more clearly. This can be a painful experience. I can’t overestimate the importance of accepting ourselves exactly as we are right now, not as we wish we were or think we ought to be. By cultivating nonjudgmental openness to ourselves and to whatever arises, to our surprise and delight we will find ourselves genuinely welcoming the never-pin-downable quality of life, experiencing it as a friend, a teacher, and a support, and no longer as an enemy.
Excerpted from Living Beautifully with Uncertainty and Change by Pema Chödrön